well, isn't that deep?
think about your days. no, i mean really and truly think about your days.
not the part where you drag your ass outta bed, to the shower and to work to slave away for the next 8 hours only to leave less than fulfilled to go home, make dinner, veg out in front of the tv then go to bed to do it all over again tomorrow.
i want you to think about the moments that make up that day.
the little things.
the really important things.
i'm not saying your 9-5 isn't important work.
but is it truly your most important work?
are you neglecting your family in order to fulfill the needs of a boss or manager or owner?
believe me, i absolutely understand the need to have income in order to pay the rent, but the groceries and have utilities.
but nothing, and i mean unequivocally, NOTHING, comes before family.
and it never should...not on a regular basis.
i know, you're saying, well it's easy for YOU to say that.
it's not. it's not easy for me to say that at all.
i really hate choosing between work and my family.
my family will win the majority of time.
but once in a great, long while, work has to come first.
i hear this phrase bantered about: "it's all about finding balance."
hmmm...balance: a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.
that's rather interesting, isn't it?
we tend to spend the bulk of our awake hours during the week at work...so how do we balance home life?
it's not simple, that's for sure.
i was told this once and have never forgotten...you can have it all, just not at the same time.
translated, this is what it meant to me: we have different seasons in our lives and sometimes our professional life has to take a back seat to our home life and our social life takes a back seat to our spiritual life...see what i'm sayin' here?
depending on where you are in your personal journey, what is a priority in your life can change, it's fluid. and you must be open to that idea in order to succeed.
your family doesn't care why you can't do something with or for them. your spouse is not necessarily sensitive to your overloaded schedule if you are not making time for him or her.
all they hear is: "i can't". the reason matters not.
but make time for your family...a few minutes every day, to say yes! i'd love to read a book with you...i'd love to hear about your day...i'd love to help you load the dishwasher.
in return of those few moments, what your family hears is: "you are important to me and i love you."
please remember that no matter how pressing your professional life is, you need to take to nurture your family.
i am grateful:
- for reminders to keep family first
- to know when to put my professional life on the back burner
- for an awesome husband
- for an awesome daughter
- for an awesome mom